Thursday, June 16, 2016

I'm Thankful:: Parenting in a World of Sanctimommies

Every other day it seems like another horrifying situation happens relating to children and their parents. Between a toddler falling into a gorilla enclosure and a sweet boy's life ending too soon after an alligator snatched him out of a Disney freaking resort the news is overrun with stories that don't always have happy endings. Those stories are followed up by articles on all platforms of social media and then ripped apart by all the parents out there who think they are doing a better job. I'm here today to tell you how thankful I am that my family has never been in a situation where my skills as a parent have been ripped apart in the media. I am also here to say that I am one of those moms that put only the good* on my social media accounts. I, for one, don't want to remember how horrible of a parent I have been, so I'm sure my kids don't want that reminder either.  {*mostly}

Here are some of the things that I am thankful haven't been caught up in the limelight of all the sanctimommies out there.

~I am thankful that my parents never had to deal with the side eyes from parents as they took a toddler into the donut shop at 3 in the morning. What the other parents didn't know is that after all ER trips for asthma I was treated to a donut. And that is pretty much all I remember from those ordeals. #worthit

~I am thankful that no photos of my parents were ever snapped as they bought cases of baby aspirin and put on blast for "drugging" their son. What wasn't seen was a toddler who couldn't even get up and walk because he was in so much pain from Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis and the aspirin was the only thing that eased the pain.

~I am thankful that the day I thought I left my toddler in the car no one was watching. Thankfully I had, but I could not for the life of me even remember dropping him off.

~I am thankful that the day I had to drop a screaming, maniacal child into a shower fully clothed no one documented it. Free spirited children are for the birds y'all.

~I am thankful when my youngest had another ear infection the hounds were not called in because "breast is best" and "it wouldn't be happening if you were nursing." Even though I was...

~I am thankful that those who don't personally know me have had the common courtesy to not delve into my past and dig up all my secrets and determine whether or not I am a fit parent.

I could go on for days on my flaws but I'll stop. Parents out there please stop passing judgment on things you know nothing about. We can always one-up another parent but it isn't necessary. On the worst day(s) of their lives it is even worse. The old adage is true, if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all.

Wednesday, June 15, 2016

Knock Knock (Is anyone there?)

Holy mother. It's almost been a full year since I've blogged (on this blog). And that makes me sad. And a little anxious because wow. A lot has happened in the past year. Nothing major, but a lot of little things that make life crazy and busy and oh so enjoyable.

A few things...I'm still blogging over at Wichita Moms Blog and I love it. I do an article a month and sometimes an extra one here or there but it's manageable. I love the camaraderie I get from the other mamas and the extra benefits that are thrown in here and there (hello cotton candy martinis at Moms Night Out).

Jacoby is now 4 (!) and a big kid. It's crazy to think he's the last baby I'll have. Seeing as I only had two but ya know. He still loves his snuggles and his Brown Bear. And I just want to keep his "little" bottled up to keep forever. He just started Blast Ball at the DRC which is the thing before T-Ball. It is a hot mess but after one game he seems to enjoy it.

Leo is 9 and is a rock star. He still has the tendencies of a needy, emotional kid but overall he seems to have moved past all the negatives that he was dealing with. There are still some moments where "bad Leo" likes to shine but his goodness shows in more ways than one. He is a loving brother most of the time and seeing him last night with Jacoby after his Blast Ball game showed me how much he cares for him. He plays soccer and baseball competitively and is extremely athletic.

Leonard is still an avid ghost hunter and now is the owner (?) of Everyday-Legacy Paranormal. They've been working with a producer from Kansas who has worked on shows on TV to try to get a show of their own. Not sure that it's going to work out but still cool for sure.

I think for the purpose of this blog there is no way I can ever document everything I want so I am going to try to photo-document from here on out. I'll try to add pictures and little quips as I go but a photo-documentary will be easier to manage than full-fledged lengthy-worded posts. Hope some of you have stuck around, but if not I completely understand!