Monday, April 19, 2010

You Get What You Get

So, today's challenge is about my favorite quote and this weeks spin cycle goes along with it with quotes as well. So here is my take on a popular kids quote that I am putting to use in my daily life...

Last week I talked in my spin cycle I talked about the things my son says. And Jen over at Sprites Keeper talked about her daughter. Her daughter came home saying "You get what you get..." and I had heard that saying from my boss whose son had learned it at his daycare. The saying I heard goes: You get what you get and you don't throw a fit. I think these are good words to live by. I have been blessed with a family that I love. My husband and I both have jobs and we are able to keep a roof over our heads and food on our table (or tv tray, depending on the night!). Although I know other people who have more than we do I have decided recently that I should (and will) be happy with what I have.

I get frustrated a lot when I see people receive things that, even if they deserve them, I do not have the same. Some people would call it jealousy. Some days I do, some days I don't. But it frustrates me because I just think, why them? Why not me? Why don't I have a trust fund? Why couldn't my parents afford to pay for my college? And although I am not blaming my parents in any way because I had more than most people growing up (and I've told my parents thank you multiple times) I just think that I have lived a "good" life and sometimes I wish those things I could have. So while this may seem like an entitled post, or kind of snotty post, it's more like an epiphany. I am deciding that today is my day to change my attitude. Sometimes I do have a bad attitude about people. I'm sure those people that receive those things that I want deserved them so I should in no way be upset at them. It's not their fault. So today is the day that I am pointing the finger back at me and saying I get what I get and I don't throw a fit. I will be the one directing my destiny. I will be the one making things happen for me. I will be the one that if I don't get something I can be upset at myself or no one at all because it's no one else's fault or no one else's job to give me something. I am not entitled to anything. And I guess the reality of it is, I have enough. I am just being greedy and that is a no-no. I try to teach my son every day that he has plenty. That just because he wants something doesn't mean he's going to get it. And I'm glad I'm teaching him that. I just need to re-teach myself that lesson!

So, if you've made it this far, I hope that you see that even though I am a sometimes greedy, selfish person I'm trying to change for the better. And I'm sure everyone has days that we all feel that way about someone or something. So just keep in mind...you get what you get and you don't throw a fit!

To see other posts about quotable quotes check out Jen over at www.spriteskeeper.com

4 comments:

Sprite's Keeper said...

I completely get it. Especially when we're working very hard to fast-pay our mortgage in less time than the typical thirty year, and other people, who are obviously using credit, come home with an i-Pad and flaunt it. I have to remind myself that we don't need the gadgets and won't enjoy it as much as when that mortgage is paid off. It's jealousy, however temporary. :-)
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Kingsmom said...

We use that saying in our house too. It makes sense.

I think we all suffer from some sort of jealousy. It's just a matter of recognizing it (like you have) and overcoming it (like you're doing).

Good post.

CaJoh said...

Reminds me of an exchange between me and a High School history teacher:

Me: That's not fair
Teacher: Fair… Life's not fair

Also reminds me of the Stars upon thars from the sneeches.

Thanks for sharing,

gretchen said...

Though my family was by no means rich, I grew up around a lot of "rich kids". And one thing I learned, is that generally, the rich kids are more screwed up than the poor kids. Because along with privilege comes a lot of other junk that can be damaging. Now, my son is in school with a lot of rich kids, and when I start to get jealous about the fabulous vacations that the other families take, and the fabulous homes and clothes that the other mommies have, I try to remember this. It's HARD. Hang tough.